Guilt and its damage
18/7/11
It seems to say things known but not everyone knows what it is that guilt is disguised in many different shapes and haunts the mind of a very large number of people in the worst cases destabilization and doing exactly what they do not want.
That's right, and many deeds, even those that appear more noble, are often not simply a repair to the sense of guilt.
There are many people who use this system consciously or unconsciously to do to others what they need. You owe me! And 'the least you can do! So you do not care anything about me or us! Do You Usually we do not think! Do not you ever live! Are never there!
All common phrases, all of blackmail, extortion subtle mental!
Difficult, if you're not shit in or if you really can not read between the lines, acting freely and sincerely. Children have the art of this technique but also many adults. You end up doing what the other wants from us, or most of the time it undergoes blackmail and no one really understands what's going on.
The danger of this attitude is that one day the wind veers in a different way and the mind is clear how many choices have been guided by this horrible feeling: guilt.
It happens to some feeling of falling into depression as in prison, the other happens, then rebellion and sound fuck are raised to the sky and breaking years of cohabitation relationships or unfortunately grew firmly on guilt.
The sense of guilt to be found and eradicated in every gesture and every moment not to become slaves. You can sit for hours and days in front of the desk to finish just below the job profile, or enter into a decent job in practical terms, but with music that sings again: "Woe is me or how much work I have to sacrifice" and of course the sense of injustice or envy towards those who seem to sweat a lot less than us and therefore we must live ... something is subtle but try to follow this step.
Or you can work honestly knowing who is doing what is best for us and for others but with a smile on your mouth without claims of others, understand the difference? But even lying on a bed lounging lounging can mean a lot to do, for example, can afford to build a mental relaxation and a valuable contact with insulation and themselves. Without anyone knowing or see something we have built. Maybe just the awareness of what we hold most precious, what to do and how best to do.
Do you understand? And 'having to constantly prove or being afraid of not being enough: good, honest, committed and hardworking, good wife, husbands, parents or children that ruins us all and affects our choices.
A little 'healthy selfishness is not a bad thing! I do it for me! For me and only me! And 'what appeals to me! There is nothing to be ashamed of. Phrases like, go for a walk, go out to dinner with friends, I do a weekend in the mountains, a week at sea does not need an excuse!
I know a lot of people returning from holidays seems that we have to justify and then come out of talks on the brink of the absurd, almost as if it were an effort to go on vacation or a task and not a pleasure!
Be careful not to say that the needs of others we should lavarele hands to Pontius Pilate! But we must realize that it is our choice to do or not do something for others, that we are not forced to do so and if we want to do because we believe the right and proper and not for fear of not being good enough.
Between doing for others and do for us there must be a healthy balance. Having children does not justify the absence of important moments of intimacy that are sexual or just friendly. Being married does not justify the fact of never having time for themselves or to do things, personal interests, friendships and more. It does not have to be a background of work to justify our absence from home, we can do it simply because we like or we go!
Torques are important, are important moments with friends, are important moments in the family more or less enlarged, but they are important and sacred moments with us and that's it! In exactly the same way and have a lower value, we are, we conditioned by respectability, which we consider below. But the real mistake is the belief that these actions are motivated demonstration of selfless love, the true love should not be shown, this is certain.
Experiment, splurge on the bed when you least expect it of others, they ask you if you are wrong, or you will hear your opinion and other people fall on you like a guillotine and then listen and try to do something to be free even in the walls of your home. It 'the first step! Then begin to build without justifying your moments alone. Recall the first judges of ourselves we are always us!
If you are a hardened fancazzisti and you have no ties with anyone ... well then for you the rule and the experiment works the opposite! Do not be fooled!




Succede comunemente che, con l'inizio dell'anno, molte persone sentano la necessità, quasi il raptus, di mettere ordine in casa, in ufficio, in macchina. E così, al posto di godersi le vacanze, ci si mette a svuotare armadi, cassetti, sottoscala, mansarde, cantine, box.
Le disfunzioni tiroidee sia in ipofunzionamento che in iperfunzionamento sono in aumento negli ultimi anni.
L'estate, e in particolare le vacanze estive, per molte persone rappresentano un'occasione per lasciarsi andare, ma non nel senso positivo del termine.






